Raveena recently lost her job in a multinational bank. The reason cited by the HR guys was "repeated display of overtly aggressive and violent behavior". Little irritations that went uncontrolled turned into fights and constant bickering. Her peers complained about her anger episodes every now and then. But when a few customers complained of Raveena's aggressive behavior, it was the last straw.
The modern workplace is full of stressful and negative situiations. General harassment, sexual harassment, favoritism, criticism, insensitivity, bullying, insult, bad interpersonal relations, lack of resources, negative feedback, impossibly high targets etc are a few common reasons for display of anger at the workplace. It is natural to experience feelings of anger and irritation. But what is important is that you should know how to control such feelings and not allow them to take control of you. When you give in to anger, you drive out reason and sanity, making the whole environment unpleasant and negative. Such behavior is not appreciated by anyone and could land you in big trouble. So we have put together a few ways for you to cope with feelings of irritation and anger.
How To Control Your Anger At The Workplace?
Look Inwards: If you are prone to anger outbursts, try looking within yourself. When a situation makes you angry and resentful, ask yourself if you have a hand in the formation of this situation. Is there something that you should have done but didn't do? More often than not, there is. Try to focus on that.
Let Go: Learning to let go is easier said than done. Yet, you must try. When faced with a stressful situation, try to distance yourself and let go. Avoid holding on to negative feelings.
Take Responsibility: Your behavior and actions are your responsibility and affect the future course of your life. Tell yourself that you cannot change others. It is only yourself that you can change. You cannot control how people behave, but you can control how you behave.
Listen Listen: Often your anger is fuelled by the conviction that the other person is wrong. But maybe he/she isn't. Give other people a chance to explain their behavior/words/actions, before you pounce on them in anger.
Blame Game: No matter how much you want to, stop looking for someone to blame. Focus on finding solutions and avoid the blame game.
Being resentful of co-workers often stems from insecurities and minor jealousies. But if you focus on improving your performance and relations, you may see a decrease in your tendency towards anger. Good Luck!